Core Coaching Beliefs About Confidence

Confidence comes from evidence, not hype.

Momentum builds confidence; stagnation drains it.

Clarity reduces anxiety.

People don’t need to feel confident to take action — action produces confidence.

Most job search fear is rooted in uncertainty, not inadequacy.

You don’t have to be “the best,” you have to be aligned.

Common Fears & TRX Reframes
Fear: “I don’t know what I’m targeting.”
Reframe: “We’ll narrow it. Direction is created, not discovered.”

Fear: “My resume isn’t good enough.”
Reframe: “It just needs to tell the right story, clearly.”

Fear: “My experience is too all over.”
Reframe: “Patterns exist. We’ll surface them.”

Fear: “I don’t want to bother people.”
Reframe: “You’re asking for insight, not a job.”

Fear: “What if I choose wrong?”
Reframe: “Your next role is a chapter, not a sentence.”

Evidence-Based Confidence Builders

List 5 accomplishments

Identify patterns in compliments

Map past moments of effectiveness

Identify 3 strengths you consistently use

Review people who have succeeded with similar experience

Look for repeat outcomes you’ve created

Mindset Shifts for Job Search

From “I need a job” → “I need alignment.”

From “I must impress” → “I must show who I am.”

From “I need perfection” → “I need clarity.”

From “I can’t ask for help” → “People help people they like.”

From “The market is terrible” → “The market is strategic.”

Signals of Burnout to Name (Not Shame)

Decision fatigue

Low motivation

Confusion about direction

Over-accommodation

Avoiding conflict

Feeling ineffective despite evidence to the contrary

What to Do When Overwhelmed

Narrow to 1–2 tasks/day

Reset expectations

Re-anchor in strengths

Revisit “must be present/must be absent”

Take one step that creates clarity

Get honest about energy, not just goals

Language Kathleen Uses in Coaching

“Let’s take the pressure out of this.”

“You’re not behind.”

“You’re allowed to change your mind.”

“Let’s make this simpler.”

“There’s evidence you’ve done this before.”

“This is solvable.”